There are many ways to get mentally tougher apparently, but according to licensed marriage and family therapist Claire Dorotik-Nana there are five things we can all stop doing right now that will promote our mental robustness:
1. Stop Off Loading Responsibility. Take responsibility for your actions, thoughts and feelings. No one makes us feel or act a certain way, we all make choices.
2. Stop Taking Things Personally. Realise no one is out to get us and that the world is not against us.
3. Stop Forecasting. Stop wasting time thinking about, forecasting or predicting the future.
4. Let Go Of Illusions. Accept there will be good and bad and things will not just work out in your favour always.
5. Stop Holding On To The Past. Letting go of the past means facing losses, but it also means finding opportunities available to us now.
I have taken the time to blog about what Claire Dorotik-Nana has to say about being mentally tougher to reinforce her message found on her blog post on Psychcentral and her book Leverage: The Science of Turning Setbacks into Springboards. Becoming mentally tough is hard work and may take many years to implement, however I think Claire’s basic five steps are food for thought and the basis of some serious self-improvement.