Still Reading and Much More


It has been awhile since I blogged. I have felt fine, guilty, wasteful, disloyal and then fine again for not needing to blog. Yet today as I received another reminder to pay for my blog domain, and yes finally decided to pay it, I feel moved to blog a little.


I am doing fine, my OCD is still with me but perhaps less rampant. I still have my perfected avenues of avoidance, but I also have the ability and will to talk myself off an emotional ledge when required.


I am not dependant, nor do I find it necessary, to share how I feel with others often and I am accustomed to safeguarding myself. I take no medication for my mental illness anymore and am currently receiving no formal therapy. I will review this with a professional in June to see if this is still advisable.


Most days I am fine, but there are days, as we all know when interractions with others or incidences, can rock the boat and in those situations I find I need support but less so and not for too long.


For example, recently I wrote a five star review for a book I had finished reading and usually after doing so I am met with either an expected silence from the author or a friendly and appreciated thanks (not compulsory, my social awkwardness prefers the silence), however on this occasion I turned to social media to find the author had complained about me to an admin on a Facebook book group alledgedly accusing me of giving away a spoiler. Something I have in my over 1500 books read and reviewed, never done. I disagreed, at most I had said a main character (not named) had died and in the crime thriller genre thats hardly news, but removed the post and reposted how much I enjoyed her book and apologised for the alledged spoiler anyway.


It is fair to say the incident stuck in my craw and I will think twice before interracting with or reading another from the author in question, who was on my Facebook friendlist at the time of her complaint, I have since removed her.  I don’t need this sort of negative interaction.


Drastic? Possibly. I blocked her too. Why? Because she has contacted me and interracted with me on numerous occasions on social media when she asked me to read or review yet in this case she made a complaint to a third party, who incidently is a good friend of mine, rather than using other less inflammatory channels to get her point across, hence losing a fan and a reader.


In the past I would be upset, possibly tearful and lamenting all of humanity and smoldering over this for days if not weeks, but today I remain resolute that I did nothing wrong and I don’t know what this individual is going through, however, I do have my own issues and there are plenty of other books to be read so I choose to no longer risk being at the mercy of someone elses’ ire or opinion of what constitues a damaging spoiler. I make no apologies for my reaction and actions I subsequently took.


That is progress in adversity for me and I am fine with that. Others may have handled it differently, may disagree with the whole spoiler question and be subsequently more laid back about the whole interraction, but I am me and this is what I do. I am no longer second guessing myself.



Unscheduled Blog/Social Media Break

I have been noticeably absent for a few weeks as I haven’t been well. Rest assured treasured regular readers it really isn’t anything too serious and I’m on the mend. Authors I have not forgotten your books and I will be hitting my reading list again soon. 

I hope very much to tackle the backlog in books and blog posts soon. I’m thinking of you all and missing you. I hope normal service will resume soon. 

1001 Blog Posts

Without even realising it I published my 1000th blog post yesterday. It certainly doesn’t feel like I have published so many posts nor does it feel like I’ve been blogging for very long as I’m still learning stuff about blogging. 

When I feel pessimistic one of the things I think about to rally my spirits is the wonderful community and support I encounter from blogging. This is the reason blogging is so much more than keeping a diary. If I just kept all these posts to myself it would be a huge loss to me personally as I would not have the wonderful feedback and comments from fellow bloggers. 

Thank you all for tuning in and reading my ramblings, I hope I have something interesting to say in my future posts. 

Dismantling Alienation

There have been two instances this month where I felt I didn’t fit or matter. The first one was early this month where I had bought two tickets to hear someone famous speak and when the talk commenced I felt totally alienated and out of place. It started with the speaker pointing out the talk was for those that looked like her. I definitely do not fall into that category because of my race. I tried to put my misgivings aside and listen and even raised my hand seven times to ask a question, but I was overlooked on every occasion.What I thought would be a thought-provoking evening was a cheap, commercial and a superficial gimmick to move product. I will never look at the speaker the same way again.

Rightly or wrongly I felt I didn’t matter and could not rethink the evening as being vaguely enjoyable. It was constructive in one way only: I got a smashing present to send someone as their nominated Secret Santa. They say you should never meet your heroes and they, whoever they may be, have a fair point. After that evening I will not be actively seeking out works from that particular speaker again and I feel I really must develop a better sense of detecting sincerity from people generally, as my sincerity meter is evidently way off. 

I didn’t let my feelings fester into making me feel worthless, which is where they would have headed usually. In the past I took things as my fault due to my misconception of the topic, but in this case I realise my expectations were too high for this mercenary individual to live up to. Noble cause, unworthy messenger.

The second time I felt I just didn’t fit, I was doing it to myself. There was no one facing me telling me I was wrong, it was just a gut feeling. Rather than react to it in any contentious or inflammatory manner, allowing it to escalate to the point it obliterated what is positive, I stopped it. I thought it may resurface, because I’m never sure how effectively my distraction technique works, but I haven’t had a chance to dwell on it much as my social diary filled up and I kept hearing all the sound advice I’ve been given to let moments of insecurity pass. With time it did feel like water under a long forgotten bridge. Next month the incident and individual probably won’t even come to mind.

Now I know I’ve made positive steps to adapt and have grown emotionally as I can let the negativity pass. On reflection I think it’s time to find voluntary work I can physically and mentally manage.

I Messed Up #Book Tag #Bookbloggers


Thank you to Jackie at Fall in Love with the Sounds of Words blog. This tag is challenging and thought provoking.

The rules:

No rules per se but the idea of this tag is to note times you did something wrong or messed up when it comes to books and then tag a few people.


A Character’s Appearance You Misread or Imagined Differently

I was totally floored by the way Isles of Rizzoli and Isles series by Tess Gerritsen was portrayed by Sasha Alexander and admit it was a total departure from how I pictured Maura Isles and still do when I read the series.

A Character Name You’ve Been Pronouncing Incorrectly

Most Irish names prior to this year, but I have googled and learned how to pronounce Aoife.

An Overused Trope That Is Your Guilty Pleasure 

Strong women who turn out to be the villain. I don’t get to read as many of these as I would like but it’s liberating to see women in the villain role with character flaws.

A Cliched Character Type You Enjoy Viewing On Screen Than Reading About

The FBI men in black suits, circa The X-Files: dull on page but you know they’ll drive the story forward on screen.

A Word/Phrase You Learned Because of Its Use In A Book

I’m coming up totally blank on this one. I should probably highlight and save any of these for future reference.

Have You Ever Not Read or Completed a Required Reading Book For School

No. I have always finished reading books I was given in English lit.

Have You Ever (Or Wanted To) Skipped A Chapter From the POV of a Character You Weren’t Interested In

Yes, I’ve wanted to, but no I didn’t as I was mindful of missing important points.

Have You Ever Cancelled Social Plans To Read A Book

Yes. Unapologetically. And I would do it again when the book I’m reading is too good to put down.

I’d Like To Tag:

meditating mummy


Inked Brownies

Author Lissa Pelzer

Living In A World Of Book Quotes

Suntag: The Secret Life of A Book Blogger

I’d like to thank Donna at Chocolate n Waffles Blog for tagging me and taking the procrastination of what to blog about today away. Thank you!

How long have you been a blogger?

I started blogging in December 2012, although was not sure what I was going to blog about until weeks later when I started publishing my book reviews regularly.

At what point do you think you will stop? 

When I’m too weak to stop them from prying tablets and Kindles out of my weak and feeble hands.

What is the best part?

Having a purpose and sending questions into the blogosphere knowing there are people like me, out there who will answer my call.

What is the worst part? 

Not having as much time as I would like to explore more blogs and keep on top of my every growing to-be-read pile of books.

How long does it take you to find/create pictures to use?

I usually try to keep a library of images I have taken for every occasion. Inevitably they mostly feature cats.


Who’s your book crush? 

I don’t usually get a book crush so was surprised when I did have a crush on Ben Hope from the Scott Mariani books.

What author would you like to have on your blog?

Tess Gerritsen, I am sending this out there to cyberspace, so Tess if you are reading this and would like to make the day of an ailing ex-medic, get in touch.

What do you wear when you write your blog?

Something lose, comfortable and bohemian. Due to the warm weather I have taken to wearing linen and cotton.

How long does it take you to prepare a post? 

It varies depending on what I am trying to say. If I love a book, no time at all, but if I’m conflicted because, I wanted to like it and I just didn’t, it can take hours.

Posts that are more personal in nature can take over a day to feel ready to post.

How do you feel about the book blogger community/culture? 

I absolutely love it, I feel part of something greater and enjoy meeting new bloggers. I have never felt so inspired by a community as I do by book bloggers.

What do you think one should do to have a successful blog? 

I think you have to love blogging in all it’s forms:

Reading and commenting on other blogs everyday.
Posting regularly.
Promoting other blogs/bloggers on social media.
Reading books for content.

Just keeping at it with patience and an open mind.

Who do I want to know better?

Cathy at Between the Lines Book Blog

Marje at Kyrosmagica

Mary at Low Country Book Lover

PJ Manley at Making It Natural

Laurie at Cozynookbks

Becca at Shihtzu Book Reviews

Real Neat Blog Award


I’d like to thank Book Mouse Blog for nominating me for this award. I’m delighted and flattered, I apologise for taking so long to post the award, but I have been easily distracted by other things recently.

The Rules

1. Thank and link the blogger that nominated you.

2. Answer the 7 questions that the nomination has provided you.

3. Create 7 questions for your nominees.

4. Nominate 7 other bloggers.

And here are Book Mouse Blog’s questions:

What inspired you to start writing a blog?

I felt like I needed a space to talk about the books I read and how I felt with the hope of reaching kindred spirits.

Do you participate in any reading challenge(s)? Which one(s)?

Yes. I have been taking the Goodreads reading challenge for the last three years.

What is your favorite book format and why? (Paperback, Hardback, Kindle/E-book, Audiobook, Large Print, etc.)

I love reading hardback books as they are easier to keep pristine and cause me less stress when reading.

What is your favorite NON-fiction book?

The only non-fiction book I regularly go to is my Oxford Thesaurus.

What is your go to book store when you are looking for something?

Almost always Amazon, as they are most likely to have whatever I’m searching for. I was immensely disappointed when I took a list of books to Waterstones last October and they didn’t have any of them.

What hobbies do you have aside from reading?

I love movies, particularly horror and sci-fi films. I love crochet and knitting and am not put off by how basic my skills are at both.I’m rediscovering my love of heavy metal.

What are your five favorite fictional places?

Asgard, Narnia, Oz, Charlie’s Chocolate Factory, Hogwarts

My nominees are:

On Turning Pages
An Aussie Bookworm
Book Adventures
The Book Review Cafe
It’s all about books

My Questions:

1. What’s your favourite read so far this year?
2. Name a film you’ve watched based on a book in the last twelve months.
3. What book release are you most looking forward to this year?
4. What’s your favourite series of books?
5. Which author would you most like to have lunch with?
6. What is the scariest book you’ve ever read?
7. If you could go anywhere in the world where would be the best place to read?

One Lovely Blog Award


I’d like to thank Sammi Cox Author Aspiring for nominating me for this blog award. I am honoured and delighted.

The Rules

Thank the person who nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
List the rules and display the award.
Add 7 facts about yourself.
Nominate 10-15 bloggers for the award, and comment on one of their posts to let them know.

7 Facts About Me

I am on the cusp between Taurus and Gemini.
I am caffeine intolerant and find myself feeling ill if I drink any caffeinated drinks.
I have form for losing important documents or essential items such as leads for games consoles, cameras etc.
I hate not liking a book, it puts me in a bad mood.
I’m not the sort of person who can accept surprise gifts as I have to research the hell out of what I want before I get it.
I don’t eat after 6 pm.
For breakfast I have more medication than food.

My Nominees

Long Story Short
Chocolatenwaffles Blog
Useless Book Club
The Hidden Prestige
Ebby’s Lane
Angel’s Pearl
Trust In The Words
Dutch Goes The Photo
Books & Strips

Book Quote Challenge: Day Two of Three


Continuing from yesterday’s blog post, thanks to Adventures in Thirty Something for nominating me in this challenge. Today my theme is Shakespeare I read in school. If you’re not a Shakespeare enthusiast, I hope you enjoy our past kittens instead.

The rules are:

Post for three consecutive days
Pick three quotes per day
Challenge three different bloggers per day

My First Quote: 

“The course of true love never did run smooth; ” (Act 1, Scene 1)

Misummer Night’s Dream by William Shakespeare 

My Second Quote: 

“For never was a story of more woe [t]han this of Juliet and her Romeo.” (5.3.317-318)

Romeo and Juliet by William Shakespeare 

My Third Quote: 

“I hold the world but as the world, Gratiano, A stage, where every man must play a part; And mine a sad one. (Act I, Scene I)

Merchant of Venice by William Shakespeare 

Today’s Nominees:
I hope you take your time and go on a nostalgic journey of books read when life was a bit simpler and remember the joy reading brings you.

Arwen Free Bird
Booklover Circumspect 4
Garcia Talks About…

Book Quote Challenge: Day One of Three


Thank you Adventures in Thirty Something for nominating me for the Book Quote Challenge. I have never done this before and the chance to share my nine top book quotes and ask nine other bloggers for their top nine quotes sounds like fun. My theme for today’s quotes are books I loved reading for English literature GCSE.

The rules are:

Post for three consecutive days
Pick three quotes per day
Challenge three different bloggers per day

My First Quote:

All animals are equal, but some animals are more equal than others.

From Animal Farm by George Orwell

My Second Quote:

It may have been observed that there is no regular path for getting out of love as there is for getting in. Some people look upon marriage as a short cut that way, but it has been known to fail. 

From Far From the Madding Crowd by Thomas Hardy

My Third Quote:

Which is better — to have laws and agree, or to hunt and kill?

From Lord of the Flies by William Holding

My First Three Nominees:
Bloggers who I virtually love and have now given them one more thing to do, for three days in a row no less, as if you aren’t busy enough! Hope you’ll accept and see the fun in this.

Meditating Mummy’s Mostly Bookish Blog
Dynamite Review
The ‘Lancer

Tune in for Book Quote Challenge Day 2 tomorrow.